You have worked hard on your business and now the time has come. You keep reading that you should do it and all the benefits of it, but the thought terrifies you! You’ve been putting it off, but eventually you know you are going to have to do it. Okay so today is the day, after all nothing is being done putting it off and your fear certainly isn’t getting any smaller. So this it, you are psyched and ready, poised with pen in hand or computer in front of you wait…and wait… You discover you only have one thought in your head at this moment “I have nothing to say!” You were afraid of this.
Stop comparing yourself to other writers. To overcome writing fears, don’t compare your skills, ideas, or past writing clips to others – especially successful published writers. It doesn’t matter if Allende has written books that receive international acclaim…once, she was an unpublished writer, too. It doesn’t matter if other writers are winning positions at About.com; what does matter is that you are living up to your own writing abilities and goals and dreams.
Much of writing is thinking, and much of thinking is listening (erroneously referred to as “staring into space”). If you are in an environment where you are distracted by noises (or there aren’t enough noises) find the right place. This might mean writing a first draft somewhere else and revising at your desk.
If outlines work for you (take heart, they don’t for everybody), start your work with a rough outline of the areas you want to cover.
View your writing and editing skills as changeable. Research from the University of Toronto shows that if you think your professional skills and abilities are fixed, then you’ll become anxious if you’re successful. These psychologists found that people who think their capabilities are fixed get disoriented when they succeed, and their performance then spirals downward. To overcome fear of success as a writer or blogger, remind yourself that you will be a better writer in a year or two (or ten!) and you will be able to handle your success and your fears.
Define your passion. What is it that keeps you in a happy space when you’re writing? What are you impassioned about so much that you’re biting at the bit to share with the world? Define your passion and let it guide you to your purpose.
Authenticity is Key. There’s something about a person that doesn’t get bogged down in the details. They know they didn’t write that sentence perfectly, but they also know that it is enough to get the point across.
I’ve always believed that the more you show people who you really are, the more you will attract the right people into your life.
If you try to be perfect, how can people relate to you? Perfection blocks creativity and spontaneity. Everyone talks about being authentic, of being an artist, but in order to be those things, we have to let go of the fear and the perfection that has been programmed into us.
Your readers won’t care if you’re perfect. In fact, if there’s anything I’ve learned it is that the more you are able to be who you truly are, the more you’ll draw the right people to you.
Now, we could argue that we’re all perfect in our imperfection, but that’s not my point here. I am not here for that. I am here to get a point across.
You are perfect as you are. I like you as imperfect. Just words. Be yourself, with quirks and all.